The growth choice

We are wired to survive.  Our brains and bodies are designed to prioritize staying alive over all else.  In situations of danger all our resources are mobilized to fight or flee.  No conscious choice is necessary.  Automatic processes kick into … Continue reading

Finding Freedom

“I feel trapped” she said.  “All I have ever wanted is to be free and here I am stuck in a job I hate and a relationship that isn’t working for me.”  I asked her if she might be willing … Continue reading

That’s my story & I’m sticking to it

We were a bit blocked in the session.  Janet was having trouble opening up and connecting with her feelings.  “Do I feel like a safe person to you right now?” I asked her.  She paused and looked at me for … Continue reading

Say Yes to You for More You

You’re running late and there was an accident on the bridge and traffic is delayed and you forgot your cellphone.  All you can do is hunker down and get there as quickly as you can, right?  Actually, wrong. You do … Continue reading

Growing into more you

When people come in my door they are often suffering, in some kind of pain or stuckness, and they are looking for help to feel better.  What they may not know is, they are really looking to grow. The things … Continue reading

The utility of futility

If at first you don’t succeed try again.  Then try some more.  Then if you don’t succeed, try giving up. Some things in life are futile.  The vulnerable truth of being human is we are not 100% in control of … Continue reading

Committing to you

Are you holding back?  In this delicious painful vulnerable beautiful human journey, are you all the way in, or in by just a toe? Someone once said to me “I only want to commit to my life just enough to … Continue reading

Protected or connected

“It seems like I carry a shield around me to protect me so I don’t get hurt” she said.  We were working on her struggle to open up and be close to people.   As we paid attention to her … Continue reading

Hear the Sound of You

Have you listened to yourself lately?  I mean really listened… As we speak we have tonal qualities in our voices.  This is called the “prosody” of the voice and it is what conveys the emotional meaning of what we are … Continue reading