Intimacy with you

“I feel fenced in or controlled when people try to get close to me.”  “I feel lonely even when I’m with others.” “I’ve been told I’m clingy, jealous or controlling.”  “I’m afraid that if I let someone in they will … Continue reading

A bit rude

It may seem a bit rude to interrupt, yet my daily work with clients is about interrupting.  I interrupt people as they deny or suppress or defend against the truth of what they are experiencing, and invite them to come … Continue reading

You Are The Answer

Like all living things, we are built to grow.  We are meant to become the fullest manifestation of ourselves.  Sometimes when we are quiet, when we are still, we can hear the soft insistent voice within calling us.  Like a … Continue reading

To Have and To Hold

The November wind is wailing outside my window, rain hitting the panes with a sloppy rhythm that makes me want to pull my sleeves down over my wrists to keep me warm.  The last time I wrote in this blog … Continue reading

The soft animal of your body

“I just can’t let myself rest.”  “I can’t accept praise.”  “I can’t allow myself to trust.”  “If someone is mad at me I feel so bad about myself.”  “I feel guilty a lot of the time.”  “I feel I’m trapped, … Continue reading

The growth choice

We are wired to survive.  Our brains and bodies are designed to prioritize staying alive over all else.  In situations of danger all our resources are mobilized to fight or flee.  No conscious choice is necessary.  Automatic processes kick into … Continue reading

Finding Freedom

“I feel trapped” she said.  “All I have ever wanted is to be free and here I am stuck in a job I hate and a relationship that isn’t working for me.”  I asked her if she might be willing … Continue reading

Longing and limits

We are all vulnerable. We long for so many things.  And often we can do a great deal toward making those things happen, but we do not 100% determine the outcome.  In the end other forces contribute to whether or … Continue reading

That’s my story & I’m sticking to it

We were a bit blocked in the session.  Janet was having trouble opening up and connecting with her feelings.  “Do I feel like a safe person to you right now?” I asked her.  She paused and looked at me for … Continue reading

Say Yes to You for More You

You’re running late and there was an accident on the bridge and traffic is delayed and you forgot your cellphone.  All you can do is hunker down and get there as quickly as you can, right?  Actually, wrong. You do … Continue reading