I will guide you to clearly identify the internal emotional problem you would like my help with. Together we will examine any ways you are ignoring yourself, or not facing your truth, or avoiding the discomfort of emotion and unwittingly creating suffering for yourself. With your permission and your will to address these obstacles, we will attune to the wisdom of your body and grow your capacity to notice, tolerate and regulate little signals of anxiety in the body, steering you toward emotion. So you can matter. So you can grow.
A Relationship and a Process
Therapy is a relationship. We honour certain boundaries in our work such as structure and fees.
I work actively, respectfully, and collaboratively with you on the internal emotional problems you want to resolve.
You may resist the pain of growth in the places where you have needed to in the past. You may try to defend against the discomfort of your vulnerable feelings. That is natural.
I help you see and feel what those defenses have cost you, and I make it safe enough for the real you to emerge.
I model a new way of relating with yourself that is compassionate, so that you can experience what it feels like to have someone in your corner over and over again. As you internalize our relationship you will have that safety within you always.
Out of repeated experiences of facing the truth of what you feel and being held with warm interest and non-judgment, you grow your ability to livein all the richness and complexity of who you most deeply are. You become a compassionate ally for yourself so you can risk being all you are meant to be.
Therapy is a relationship in which your growth is the priority for both of us.
This is a relationship between experts. You are the expert on you. I am the expert on transformation and growth.
I connect with the healthiest parts of you, mobilizing your hope, desire, will and innate wiring for growth.
We cultivate a way of being together that is warm, interested, and non-judgmental so that you can risk feeling your human vulnerability. So that you can feel what is deeply true for you, and can fully express that truth.
These are experiences, not just ideas, and in order to make change that lasts these experiences need to be lived and felt, not just understood in the mind.
You bring your expert knowledge of yourself and :
–willingness to engage in a relationship where you deeply matter
–courage to feel and be in the body
-openness to being surprised by who and what we find
-and a commitment to stop treating yourself lovelessly.
So that you can emerge in all you are meant to be, confident in your ability to cope, and able to connect with yourself and others, sharing the gift of who you are with the world.