We all want connection (June 19, 2010)

We all want connection - to our family and friends and colleagues and partners... to our work, our community, to nature, to the larger world.  And all that connection begins with the core connection, the one that is the foundation for personal growth: connecting into ourselves in the body in the moment.

I began my talk last Wednesday evening at the West Vancouver Womens Network saying just that.  And, experts at connnection that they are with their regular practice of networking, I could see it resonated with them.  I introduced them to the idea of loving their vulnerable selves, and invited them to have and hold their experience in the light of their reflective awareness.  We spent the hour connecting into our bodies, into ourselves, and mattering.

And here I am right now touched by my own desire for connection.  I want it too.  And your beautiful heartful brave sharing on last week's blog, as well as on so many previous posts, moves me.  I feel that my passion for growth is met with your courage - and together we are creating a community of people who are becoming more authentic and resilient and related with others.  

I am connecting with you, you are connecting with yourselves and with me and with each other. 

We are deepening our ability to notice the discomfort of our call to growth, to feel the twinges and tightenings in the body, and we continue to practice coming home, even when we do not feel good.  And we are sharing our journey with each other, in a warm, interested and nonjudgemental dialogue.  I am so grateful to you.

Thank you for connecting.  We are all so worth it.

 

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#1 Rebecca on 6.20.2010 at 2:09 PM

I have been dealing with someone extremely difficult in the last for the past three weeks - a person who is brimming with rage at life. It is daily and my body has been a state of tension almost continuously. I feel the tightness shoot down the back of my neck and across my shoulders. I feel the knot in my stomach. Unfortunately, it is not a situation that will be resolved immediately and I must work very hard each day to try to calm my body. Although I often feel like SCREAMING - I can not given the situation (or rather I can scream but somewhere off in the woods) I am able to acknowledge that the situation is extremely difficult and that I am doing my best and that my body requires extra attention. I balance this with expressing myself in a reasonable matter so that I am not allowing myself to be walked on and forgotten. I have learned from the experience (I think that I would rather take a cooking course and learn though) and it has really taught me a great deal. I see the importance of listening to the body, knowing what is true and being able to communicate this not from a place of rage but a place of mattering. Rage doesn't appear to seem like mattering - it is almost the opposite - like you have to degrade and insult the other person because you feel so bad about yourself. Not so good and hard on the body I am sure.

Anyway, I feel like I am in dissonance boot camp. Perhaps I will great strides more quickly from the experience :) I hope.......

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