To Have and To Hold: Loving Your Vulnerable Self to Live Your Biggest Life

Are you looking for a bigger, more authentic life?  Are you ready for lasting growth?  Not a superficial change, not a quick fix that can’t be sustained, but real growth that lasts?  You can:

  • Live with less worry and self doubt.
  • Gain confidence that you can bounce back from difficulty.
  • Become kinder to yourself and others.
  • Find more meaning and purpose in your life.
  • Become your authentic self.
  • Develop better connections with others.
  • Achieve growth that lasts.

You can take charge of your personal growth and become more You.   Anxiety, depression, coping, intimacy, self esteem - and many other issues are due in large part to difficulty recognizing and regulating what is going on inside ourselves.

The most basic truth of being human is that we are vulnerable: there are limits to our ultimate control over outcomes that matter to us.  Vulnerability is a fact of life, but it is also an uncomfortable  feeling in the body: "dissonance".   Dissonance is muscle tension and agitation.  It is your body's message that you are vulnerable and at the same time you are on the cusp of an experience that can grow you - if you know what to do.

Your body is asking you to assure it that it is safe, here and now.  The problem is we are wired to move away from the feeling of dissonance.

Rather than avoid it, we need to approach dissonance.   When you bring warm interest and nonjudgement to the feeling in the body of vulnerability you gain access to your power.  Dissonance needs to become your best friend.  It is your personal call to growth.   

In seminars, DVD's, my private practice, and in my upcoming book, To Have and To Hold: Loving Your Vulnerable Self to Live Your Biggest Life, I help people do what doesn't come naturally: listen for dissonance, approach it, take care of it.  So they can matter, so they can grow.

I guide and support people to have and to hold...   to have the complexity and richness of their authentic selves and to hold themselves with compassion.  The outcome for you?  More connection, more resilience, and your biggest life.